Ref. No. 41/896

In the name of Allah the most Gracious the most Merciful

The answer to your question is as follows:

Hurmate Musaharat is a sharia term which means laws of prohibition in relation to marriage. As the legal sexual relation establishes Hurmate Musaharat and a man cannot marry mother in-law and wife’s daughter (if any by the previous husband) etc., similarly the illegal sexual relation and sexual foreplay establishes this Hurmat too. Touching or kissing a woman with lust is considered a sexual foreplay which sets up Hurmate Musaharat. If a man touches his daughter with lust, his nikah will be invalidated and the wife will be forbidden on him for lifetime.

Ulama say that Hurmate Musaharat applies when seven conditions are met which are hereunder:

1.        If one touches the body of a woman directly with lust without the barrier of a thick cloth in between to prevent the heat of the woman's body from being felt then hurmat-e-musaharat will be established.

2.      If one touches the hairs of a woman inside the head area with lust then hurmat-e-musaharat will be established but if he touches the hairs which are hanging beyond the head area then there is no Hurmate Musaharat.

3.      Touching any part of the body establishes the Hurmat e Musaharat if it is done with lust. Otherwise if it is not with lust it will cause no Hurmat. The sign of perceiving lust in a male is that he perceives movement in his private part or has an erection. However, if a person is old and cannot have an erection, then for such a person, perceiving lust in the heart is sufficient to establish hurmat-e-musaaharah. The sign of perceiving lust in a female is that she perceives lust in her heart.

4.      If a woman touches the body of a man and she says that she touched him with lust, so if the man thinks her true in her words, then the Hurmat will take place.

5.       The lust must be found during foreplay to establish Hurmat. If the lust was before touching or after that but throughout touching process there was no lust or arousal then Hurmate Musaharat will not apply.

6.      There must be no ejaculation in sexual foreplay. If one touches a woman and ejaculated due to lust then the Hurmate Musaharat will not take place.

7.       The touched girl must be above 9 years old. If a man touches a girl below 9 years of age, then Hurmate Musaharat will not apply.

So, in the above mentioned case, whatever Maulana told in his speech maybe true if he clarified all the details written above.

And Allah knows best

Darul Ifta

Darul Uloom Waqf Deoband

Ref. No. 945 Alif

In the name of Allah the Most Gracious the Most Merciful

The answer to your question is as follows:

Loving a girl is unlawful and a big sin as per the Shariah; one must shun it. However, if one falls in love he should get up in the mid night of Friday and keeping her in mind read the following text to seek her from Allah.

The text is as follows:

                            فان تولوا فقل حسبی اللہ لاالہ الا ھو علیہ توکلت وھو رب العرش العظیم ، انت الرب حسبی من فلانۃ بنت فلانۃ اعطف قلبھا الی۔

For more detail, read ‘Ganjeena e Asraar’ by Allamah Kashmiri (ra).

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Darul Uloom Waqf Deoband

Ref. No 2384/44-3603

بسم اللہ الرحمن الرحیم:۔ نکاح کے صحیح ہونے کے لئے ضروری ہے کہ عورت کی سابقہ عدت گزرچکی ہو، اور پھر معتبر دوگواہوں  کی موجودگی میں  لڑکا و لڑکی ایجاب و قبول کریں۔ اس لئے صورت مسئولہ میں اگر عورت کی عدت وفات  (چار ماہ دس دن) گزرچکی ہے تو   صرف لڑکا ولڑکی کے تنہائی میں ایجاب وقبول سے نکاح منعقد وصحیح نہیں ہوگا۔ نکاح کے لئے گواہوں کا ہونا شرط ہے، بغیر گواہوں کے نکاح ہرگز نہیں ہوسکتاہے۔

 ولا ينعقد نكاح المسلمين إلا بحضور شاهدين حرين عاقلين بالغين مسلمين رجلين أو رجل وامرأتين عدولا كانوا أو غير عدول أو محدودين في القذف " قال رضي الله عنه: اعلم أن الشهادة شرط في باب النكاح لقوله عليه الصلاة والسلام " لا نكاح إلا بشهود . (الهداية في شرح بداية المبتدي (1/ 185):

 (ولا ينعقد نكاح المسلمين) بصيغة المثنى (إلا بحضور شاهدين حرين بالغين عاقلين مسلمين) سامعين معاً قولهما فاهمين كلامهما على المذهب كما في البحر. (اللباب في شرح الكتاب (3/ 3):

واللہ اعلم بالصواب

دارالافتاء

دارالعلوم وقف دیوبند

Ref. No. 1097/42-289

In the name of Allah the most Gracious the most Merciful

The answer to your question is as follows:

If the bride’s family allows the groom’s family with pleasure to attend their home with many guests, it would be allowable. The guests should not burden the host and they must be avoiding customs. It is today’s custom to carry more and more people to the bride’s home for fame and so burden the host. It must be avoided.

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Ref. No. 1096/42-276

In the name of Allah the most Gracious the most Merciful

The answer to your question is as follows:

The minimum amount of Mahr is 10 Dirhams. But the Mahr amount is often negotiated between the parents or guardians of the bride and groom. If the Mahr is excessive to the groom, he or his guardians can talk to bride’s guardian and set the amount which is easily payable for the groom. If the Mahr is set by the mutual concern of both parties, the groom should pay the Mahr to his bride at earliest. The Mahrshould not be set so high for the sake of fame that it becomes difficult for the groom to pay.

And Allah knows best

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Darul Uloom Waqf Deoband

Ref. No. 1095/42-277

In the name of Allah the most Gracious the most Merciful

The answer to your question is as follows:

One can spend according to their ability and status. It is reprehensible to spend too much amount on loans only for the sake of fame. However, due to the high expenditure of a few people, this thing becomes common in the society, and people look at these arrangements in every marriage, and if one cannot manage due to lack of means, it would be a disgrace in the society. And then people are forced to go under debt and manage according to society. So spending the least is convenient to all types of people. The marriage conducted with simplicity is source of more blessings.

And Allah knows best

Darul Ifta

Darul Uloom Waqf Deoband

Ref. No. 2790/45-4346

In the name of Allah the most Gracious the most Merciful

The answer to your question is as follows:

According to Hanafi Fiqh, if milk is fed once and even a little bit of milk goes down the child's throat, the ruling of breastfeeding will apply. The arguments of the Hanafi Fiqh have been explained in detail in the concerned books, for example, Allah Almighty has said, "And your mothers who fed you”, in this verse it has been said that a woman becomes a mother by breastfeeding, so any woman who breastfeeds, even once, is a foster mother in case the breastfeeding is made within the period of breastfeeding.

In response to the other scholars who make it a condition to suck milk five times at least and narrate the hadith, Hanafi scholars say that it has been revoked, so Hazrat Abdullah bin Abbas (RA) says: “People say that one time breast-feeding does not bring hurmat." This was the case earlier, then this ruling was abrogated. Similarly, Hazrat Abdullah bin Masoud (RA) says that at the end, the ruling on breastfeeding was upheld on whether breastfeeding is more or less, the hurmat will apply.

"قال (قليل الرضاع وكثيره سواء إذا حصل في مدة الرضاع تعلق به التحريم) وفي الشرع: مص الرضيع اللبن من ثدي الآدمية في وقت مخصوصأي مدة الرضاع المختلف في تقديرها (قوله قليل الرضاع وكثيره سواء إذا تحقق في مدة الرضاع تعلق به التحريم)." فتح القدیر كتاب الرضاع، ج:3، ص:438، ط:دار الفكر)

"قليل الرضاع وكثيره إذا حصل في مدة الرضاع تعلق به التحريم كذا في الهداية. قال في الينابيع: والقليل مفسر بما يعلم أنه وصل إلى الجوف كذا في السراج الوهاج." ( الھندیۃ، كتاب الرضاع، ج:1، ص:342، ط:دار الفكر بيروت)

And Allah knows best

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Ref. No. 2216/44-2354

In the name of Allah the most Gracious the most Merciful

The answer to your question is as follows:

Your father-in-law can marry your mother and it is permissible in Shariah. The marriage of Samdhi with Samdhan is allowable. Therefore, if there is no other prohibition, then the said marriage is valid.

’’لا بأس بأن يتزوج الرجل امرأة، ويتزوج ابنه ابنتها أو أمها، كذا في محيط السرخسي‘‘.

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Ref. No. 1689/43-1336

In the name of Allah the most Gracious the most Merciful

The answer to your question is as follows:

Spending time with your wife, talking to her and listening to her talk being frank and tempting her for foreplay will be a source of comfort, and going out for a few days for excursion may also be helpful.

However, sometimes it happens due to the lack of desire in a woman, so you may consult a specialist in this regard.

And Allah knows best

Darul Ifta

Darul Uloom Waqf Deoband

Ref. No. 1533/43-1049

In the name of Allah the most Gracious the most Merciful

The answer to your question is as follows:

To get a reward for sexual intercourse with one's wife is reported and logical too. Hadith also points to the rational argument that when indulging in an illegal sex is a sin, then having sex legally with one’s wife will certainly be rewarding. However, the Hadith mentions mere reward but being batter than Nafl is not found in a hadith.

عن أبي ذر، أن ناسا من أصحاب النبي صلى الله عليه وسلم قالوا للنبي صلى الله عليه وسلم: يا رسول الله، ذهب أهل الدثور بالأجور، يصلون كما نصلي، ويصومون كما نصوم، ويتصدقون بفضول أموالهم، قال: " أوليس قد جعل الله لكم ما تصدقون؟ إن بكل تسبيحة صدقة، وكل تكبيرة صدقة، وكل تحميدة صدقة، وكل تهليلة صدقة، وأمر بالمعروف صدقة، ونهي عن منكر صدقة، وفي بضع أحدكم صدقة، قالوا: يا رسول الله، أيأتي أحدنا شهوته ويكون له فيها أجر؟ قال: «أرأيتم لو وضعها في حرام أكان عليه فيها وزر؟ فكذلك إذا وضعها في الحلال كان له أجر» (صحیح مسلم، باب بیان ان اسم الصدقۃ یقع علی کل، 2/697)

ويتضمن ذلك أن الإنسان إذا فعل شيئا أصله على الإباحة وقصد به وجه الله تعالى يثاب عليه وذلك كالأكل بنية التقوي على طاعة الله تعالى والنوم للاستراحة ليقوم إلى العبادة نشيطا والاستمتاع بزوجته وجاريته ليكف نفسه وبصره ونحوهما عن الحرام وليقضي حقها وليحصل ولدا صالحا وهذا معنى قوله صلى الله عليه وسلم وفي بضع أحدكم صدقة والله أعلم (شرح النووی علی مسلم، کتاب الوصیۃ قال الزھری ھی مشتقۃ من وصیت 11/78)

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